THINS ONE REGRETS IN OLD AGE

TOP 37 THINGS YOU’LL REGRET WHEN YOU’RE OLD

Before you read this page, make sure you save it and always look at it, just to remind yourself not to regret these things. Here are the 37 things you’ll regret when you’re old.

*1. Not traveling when you had the chance.*

Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

*2. Not learning another language.*

You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

*3. Staying in a bad relationship.*

No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

*4. Forgoing sunscreen.*

Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

*5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.*

“Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm.

*6. Being scared to do things.*

Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

*7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.*

Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

*8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.*

Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

*9. Not quitting a terrible job.*

Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.

*10. Not trying harder in school.*

It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

*11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.*

Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

*12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”*

When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

*13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.*

You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

*14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.*

You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

*15. Caring too much about what other people think.*

In 20 years you won’t give a darn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

*16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.*

Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

*17. Not moving on fast enough.*

Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

*18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.*

What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

*19. Not standing up for yourself.*

Old people don’t take sh*t from anyone. Neither should you.

*20. Not volunteering enough.*

OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

*21. Neglecting your teeth.*

Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

*22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.*

Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

*23. Working too much.*

No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

*24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.*

Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

*25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.*

Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

*26. Failing to finish what you start.*

Failing to finish what you start.

“I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

*27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.*

You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

*28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.*

Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

*29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.*

People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

*30. Not playing with your kids enough.*

When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

*31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).*

Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.

*32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.*

Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.

*33. Worrying too much.*

As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”

*34. Getting caught up in needless drama.*

Who needs it?

*35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.*

Not spending enough time with loved ones.

Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

*36. Never performing in front of others.*

This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

*37. Not being grateful sooner.*

It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

GIVING IS GOOD FOR SOUL
 The evidence is strong: helping others can actually boost your own wellbeing. By Professor Lea Waters and Hayley Jach, Centre for Positive Psychology, Melbourne Graduate School of Education, University of Melbourne. Which situation do you think would make you the happiest: spending money on yourself or on another? Contrary to what most people think, researchers at the University of British Columbia found that people were happier when they spent the money on other. What’s more there was no difference in happiness for the people who had $5 to give and the people who had $20 to give. The act of giving, no matter how big or small, makes us feel good.

MEMORIOR  OF PAST PRESIDENT- WHY YOU SHOULD BE  IMA PRESIDENT

1-More humble- You are going to be more humble than you were before becoming president.

2-More Connected- You are now more connected than you were ever before to members, administration , state Ima  ,politicians , journalists and everyone else.

3-More tolerant- Your tolerance to hear adverse comment and viewpoints ,complains and other nonsense goes up tremendously  as the time goes .

4-MULTITASKING- You will never believe how many work you can do together. You will find new power inside you , which you never thought existed. 

5-HOW MUCH WORK YOU CAN DO IN ONE HOUR- With your lethargy and inertia gone you can achieve so much in one hour .

6-FAMOUS- Definitely You are more famous than you were before being IMA president.

 7- EASE OF DOING PRACTICE- Well nobody and no rule or no license is going to trouble you ,when you are president of IMA. In fact your things are done automatically.

 There are many more of benefits which I can enumerate, Of course there few negatives as well .Overall people see you with more respect and awe and if you love the limelight ,job is for you.

                                                DR MOHAN PANDE

Religion has actually convinced people that there's an invisible man living in the sky who watches everything you do, every minute of every day. And the invisible man has a special list of ten things he does not want you to do. And if you do any of these ten things, he has a special place, full of fire and smoke and burning and torture and anguish, where he will send you to live and suffer and burn and choke and scream and cry forever and ever 'til the end of time!

But He loves you. He loves you, and He needs money! He always needs money! He's all-powerful, all-perfect, all-knowing, and all-wise, somehow just can't handle money!”

DEPRESSED?CHANGE THESE 11 THOUGHTS

1. All-or-None Thinking: This type of irrational thinking is also called black-and-white thinking or dichotomous thinking. This is thinking in extremes or absolutes with no consideration for any alternatives in between the extremes. For example, if you get a below-average performance evaluation and feel that you will never get a good performance evaluation in the future, you are indulging in black-and-white thinking. The same is true if you were rejected by someone who you were hoping to have a relationship with and your thoughts were, “I am a total failure in relationships.” All-or-none thinking defies the universal truth that people’s abilities and their character exists on a continuum and can never be pigeon-holed into an either/or category. Pay attention to words like “total,” “complete,” “always,” and “never” when you describe something that didn’t happen the way you expected it to. Most likely, in these circumstances, your mind has been hijacked into an all-or-nothing thinking mode. You will be successful in some areas of your life and not so much in others. Your failure in one aspect of your life doesn’t negate your successes or accomplishments in other areas; however, it does so when you are going through depression. This is because of selective abstraction, another type of irrational thinking, described next.
2. Selective abstraction:  You focus on one particular detail of a situation or thought, take it out of context, and ignore other important and positive aspects of the situation. People with depression focus on the negative aspects of a situation and ignore the positives, thus perceiving the entire situation as being negative. Also, called “mental filter,” this type of irrational thinking is common in depression, especially in people with a pessimistic outlook. For example, a student who got a “B” in one subject and “As” in all the other subjects may dwell on the “B” ignoring their excellent performance in other subjects, thus feeling dejected. Selective abstraction can make you undermine your strengths and underestimate your self-efficacy. Some people with depression take this distorted thinking to even a greater level and start disqualifying the positives as described next.
3. Disqualifying the positives: Depression can cloud your thinking into not just ignoring the positives, but also making you actively negate the positives. This is particularly true when depression lowers your self-esteem, which then makes you feel that you don’t deserve positive things in your life. You can recognize this type of irrational thought when you use the “yes, but” language to discount positive changes. An often cited example for this distorted thinking is when upon being complimented, you find an excuse to justify why you are not worthy of the compliment – “they said this just to make me feel better.” Another variant is when you don’t give credit to yourself and either shift the credit to others or use justifications like, “I just got lucky.” When carried to an extreme, this type of thinking can make you loathe in self-pity to the extent that anything positive seems foreign to you.
4. Arbitrary interpretation: You wrongly assume that others are thinking in bad terms about you without any factual evidence to support your notion. This irrational thought pattern is also referred to as jumping to conclusion or mind reading. Typically, this type of misinterpretation occurs when the cues are ambiguous. For example, if you say “Hi” to your coworker when you walk into the office and they don’t reply back because they are too engrossed in their own thoughts, you may think they are ignoring you and feel bad about the situation.
5. Overgeneralization: You lose perspective of the situation as a whole and allow one problem or perceived deficit to color your perception to negatively interpret the entire situation. An example is when you fail to make a good impression at a meeting and start believing that you don’t have any people skills.
6. Labeling: You use negative labels to describe yourself or others. Labeling is an exaggerated form of overgeneralization and is usually recognized in sentences starting with “I am a ….” Examples include, “I am a loser,” or “He is good for nothing.” In labeling, the emotional reaction to an event is out of proportion to the actual intensity of the event.
7. Magnification/minimization: You inflate your problems or faults and underestimate your strengths and abilities. For example, you are involved in a minor fender-bender and your first reaction is, “This is going to cost a fortune to repair.”
8. Catastrophizing: Magnification taken to an extreme is catastrophizing. You predict the worst-case scenario for a future situation ignoring all the evidence to the contrary. Also, called fortune-telling, this type of irrational thought pattern is more common in anxiety. You can recognize this pattern of thinking if you are using statements starting with, “What if…” and ending with a bad outcome. For example, a person who is afraid of heights may think, “What if I feel dizzy and fall over the balcony?” A person afraid of flying may think, “What if I have a panic attack in the plane and no one can help me?” Catastrophic thinking evokes your sense of vulnerability and takes it to an extreme level overriding your rational mind to come up with other more plausible alternatives.
9. Personalization: You take personal responsibility and blame yourself for a situation gone bad or other problems. You even take blame for what others may have done. For example, a woman going through divorce may believe that she is a disappointment to her children and family because she couldn’t save her marriage. As evident, personalization evokes the feelings of irrational guilt, which perpetuate depression.
10. “Should” and “must” statements: You have impractical, often absurd, expectations and you use these expectations as a yardstick to evaluate yourself, others, or a situation. For example, “I should always do my best,” “He should have tried harder,” or “I must win every time.”
11. Emotional reasoning: Your strong emotions make you believe that the feeling-state you are in is actually true without considering evidence to the contrary. For example, “I am feeling guilty, and, therefore, I should deserve to feel bad.”  

LAPAROSCOPIC ECTOPIC PREGNANCY MANAGEMENT

“Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”